between a rock ….
and a hard place…….
Mom has been diagnosed with a syndrome called, Failure to Thrive. It is common in the elderly with chronic disease, limited physical and mental function and the loss of independence, as well as the loss of familiar surroundings due to the need for nursing home care. The manifestation of this syndrome is the refusal to eat and drink a sufficient amount to nourish the body. According to the director at the nursing home and her doctor at the hospital, I will be asked to decide what, if any measures to take to try to alleviate her condition.
Mom is currently back in the hospital. She was transported by ambulance on Tuesday with severe dehydration, mal-nourishment and extreme physical weakness. The nursing home has made every effort to get her to eat but over the last few days she refuses to even drink more than a couple of sips of water. Most likely a feeding tube along with hospice care will be recommended. I have heard lots of horror stories of massive infection and pain associated with it. As an only child, I along with my DH and our children will have to consider and decide on the options, none of which are good. I know what I would want in this situation but having to decide for Mom is breaking my heart. At this point there is not much of an option for quality of life, it comes down to quantity. At what point does ‘helping’ become torture? I am praying for the right answer.
Grace and Mercy to be able to deal with the hard stuff!
The following link describes the Failure to Thrive syndrome.
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