When you become the parent to a parent….
This morning as we sat across from each other at our shared desk, my husband and I both started laughing at the same time. He was paying his mother‘s bills and I was sorting out my mother’s bank statement, trying to arrive at a correct balance so I could pay her bills. We wondered how many years we have until our kids are trying to keep us in line.
My mother just decided this week that she didn’t feel like paying bills. Not that I blame her with everything else she is dealing with, and at 82 some things just get left by the wayside because she forgets. I found the latest bank statement in the trash can, finally, after two days of searching. Finding all her bills is another story. Suffice it to say, they are stashed in various and sundry places. I am quickly finding out that retaining one’s sense of humor is necessary to retain sanity.
My sweet husband is relieving me of making the daily trek to the cancer center for mother’s treatment, so that I can get her financial business sorted out. I can sign checks on her account but didn’t want to do that until I was certain she had funds to cover what I was paying. I sure don’t need writing hot checks added to my stress level! LOL!!! See I am laughing as I go along!
One thing she does not misplace are all the Publisher’s Clearing House entries, as well as other less reputable sweepstakes telling her she has won large sums of money, but requiring payment of fees to claim the prizes. I discovered this several months ago, too late to prevent her being scammed to the tune of over $3000.00 and that is just the ones I know about. She would use those checks we all get from credit card companies, write them to herself, cash them and buy money orders at the post office and mail them to God only knows where. Then she would get a call saying she needed to send more money, which she continued to do. I have been unable, along with all her friends, to convince her that if you have really won something you don’t have to pay to get it. It got kinda hard to remember the sense of humor rule for a time……
Time for some more humor, cancer center just called to say the radiation machine is down today and they don’t know when or if it will be back up in time for mother’s appointment. I told them that we would see them tomorrow. So then, I had to call my husband who had already left to pick her up, thankfully they hadn’t left town. Just about the time you think you have a schedule down pat, something else comes along, LOL (again).
Now I am just wondering, “Did I get all of our own bills paid?” Better go look…..
Grace and Peace to all no matter what the day brings!